It’s no isolated matter when we think about the Oscars held in 2022. Will Smith had acted violently against Chris Rock. We all know what happened and why, so we’re not going to get into that discussion. But I want to explore the intent behind the violence.

People snap! That said, celebrities or public figures are not invulnerable to the aggressive emotions that scream from within. A person who snaps is driven by frustration that poisons their actions. An individual whose pride is hurt allows their ego to take charge. Let’s say, we don’t even call it pride, we refer to it as being provoked.

Isn’t everyone at some point in life provoked? This is why it is necessary to revisit one’s intent-driven actions.

But what was Smith’s intention? Did he want to hurt Rock? Probably, maybe… Was it his intention to defend his wife? Should not have Rock drawn the line between humor and offense? Did Rock cross a boundary just so that he could continue to receive applause and laughter at the expense of someone’s dignity?

It would be wise not to comment on a person’s level of anger in reaction but my focus is on another question. Was the true intention met with the right action?

When desires are tainted

When a social interaction takes place between two people, they develop a connection. The connection is a platform that eventually leads to a form of communication. But this communication can be rigid and impersonal. It involves simply telling a person about a situation or a given task. It is like offloading or stamping one’s authority in a communication.

The intention of this communication may or may not drive one toward developing a conversation that flows naturally.

To put it simply, in a social conversation, there is typically a primary person and a secondary person. The primary person is the one who is at the receiving end of an offering during an overall connection. This person is the one who mainly benefits. On the other hand, the secondary person is considered as the one who is offering something of value.

For instance, when we visit a holy place to pray, who is the primary person, and who is the secondary? A holy place like a temple is where the divine presence (God) among us is given the primary status where we give our offerings. However, while one prays, the divine is often treated as the secondary person from whom we keep asking for something or to grant our prayers. But if the roles were reversed and we became the secondary while treating the divine presence as the primary being, the approach changes. We ask the divine what is expected of us and how we can offer ourselves.

This is called developing an awareness of the primary and secondary roles in a social conversation. This development can be fueled by improving one’s Spiritual Quotient (SiQ).

Dr. Sarkov: “Well that’s easy. To perpetuate her existence.” Looking toward Jim, “Your job is to hunt down rogue scientists and their creators, yeah?”

Jim Sponson: “Yeah.”

Dr Sarkov: “Well, what would happen when there’s no one left to hunt?”

Abbi: “You really think Crain is underwriting rogue scientists just to stay in business?”

As part of a series, Dr Sarkov in ‘The Imperfects’, was a radical scientist obsessed with finding an evolutionary cure to upgrade humans. He succinctly illustrated the extent of tainted intentions through his actions and those of others. According to him, humans are weak and will continue to weaken further into extinction. So, in the name of improving human standards and health, Dr Sarkov conducted illegal experiments on humans turning them into monsters.

Now, there was an agency called Flux that hunted down such rogue scientists. Their on-stage intention was to protect society from unethical scientific experiments conducted on humans. However, their real intention was tainted with the desire to stay in business because if they caught all the rogue scientists, their services would become redundant and no longer required. So, they had to make sure that rogue scientists continued to exist even if the ones they caught and imprisoned weren’t rogue in the first place.

“Tainted Actions are scarred by hidden agendas

and it is up to us to decontaminate the core of our intentions.”

~Krescon Coaches

This brings us to our next question: what does one do to decontaminate a tainted intention?

The lie detector called SiQ

Let us first understand how intentions get contaminated.

A contaminated intention is a lie as it represents the partial truth from the rest. For instance, Befriending someone only to use them and misuse the friendship. Another example is a wealthy parent giving donations to an education institution so that their child who is weak in his studies is treated as special above the other students and is not failed by the teachers in the final exams.

These intentions are driven by terrors and temptations. They are also driven by false assumptions, expectations, and desires.

Taking a more elaborate example; a vendor sells two kinds of the same fruit. One is larger in size and the other is smaller. The large fruit is cheap while the small fruit is given the regular price as per the current market. A customer is bound to buy the large fruit because of the benefit of its size plus its affordability. But after cutting it open to eat, it turns out the core of this fruit is rotten. The small fruit was not rotten on the inside which is why its quality was better, and hence, had the regular price to it.

“We rarely find the rottenness behind intentions until the outcome of the actions is cut open.”

~Krescon Coaches

But we can assess our intentions and make sure that they are not driven by these contaminants. This is efficiently done with the help of enhancing our Spiritual Quotient (SiQ).

Your SiQ acts as the lie detector of your hidden agendas and compels you to correct them. By helping you stick to your values and sustain your ground of neutrality, your SiQ can help detect contaminated desires and free you from them. You can then execute your actions with pure intentions as the secondary person.

In doing so, we can transcend our social communications into conversations, and then awareness.

Intentions are the root cause of our actions which is why ensuring that they are pure can make all the difference in our spiritual journey as divine beings.

Here’s a quote I read that resonates with the purity of intentions.

“If your intentions are pure,

if you apply your craft

with a view to observe humanity

and, ultimately, God himself,

very often something powerful will surface.”

~Yasmin Ahmad